- 03
- Feb
The moment I saw this question, I knew I wanted to blog about it. If you choose to come to therapy, you need to make a commitment to work on yourself, on your issues, on your relationships, on your problem, on your growth. The therapist doesn’t do it for you. If you go to therapy expecting the therapist to give you the answers, you’re going to be disappointed. If you go to therapy expecting the therapist to help you find the answers, you’re likely to find the experience fruitful.
You can’t expect to show up week after week without having spent some time reflecting, observing yourself, trying something new, noticing how you are and make progress. In between sessions, you need to work on you, and on your relationship. You cannot work on your partner, only yourself, if you are in couples therapy.
In fact, if this is a hectic time for you, or if you are strapped for funds, make a plan for when you think you can make a commitment to this process. It could take weeks or months, sometimes even as much as a year, to identify, explore, and work through issues related to your sexuality. Or maybe you aren’t sure if therapy is right for you. Be up front, but be fair. Give it at least 4-6 sessions before deciding therapy isn’t for you.
