- 17
- Mar
Wondering if you need to spark things up in the bedroom to keep your mate from straying? It’s true; sometimes when mates get bored in the bedroom, they wander. But men and women break their vows for many non-sexual reasons. Here are five things you should pay attention to if you want to keep your partner close.
1. Are you listening? You might think so, but your partner may not. Notice how often you say, “I’m busy,” or “Can it wait until later?” You need to give your undivided attention to your partner on a frequent basis–even if it’s something you’ve heard before. The simple act of listening is a gift that builds intimacy. Don’t overlook its power in your relationship.
2. Do you touch? Almost everyone needs to be cuddled and stroked. If the only time you touch your partner is when you make love, you may be sending a message that you no longer care as much about your partner. You and your partner may literally feel like you are “losing touch.”
3. Do you put other people first? (Yes, that includes your mother!) If you really want your partner to feel unloved, make plans with everyone else first, and fit your partner in around your schedule.
4. Are you depressed? Someone who is depressed is not fun to be around. People who are depressed tend to go off by themselves–to isolate. You can end up making your partner feel lonely. There is treatment for depression–call a therapist or your physician today.
5. Are you overly critical? Being critical is different than nagging. Nagging happens when your partner doesn’t do things that you ask–and nagging could be deserved. When you are critical, you make negative comments about everything–taste in clothing, tv, music, or even friends, for example. Nobody wants to hang around someone who makes them feel bad. Stop criticizing and start complimenting.
When you do any or some of these five things, you are giving your partner reasons to satisfy their natural needs elsewhere. It would be great to think your partner is above cheating, but why test their vows?
