One thing I have learned as a psychologist is that the effects of trauma can be stirred up at any time. It’s as if one’s very cells carry the memory of the trauma, even if the survivor is unaware of it. All it takes is a certain scent, a particular touch, and a woman (or man) can become suddenly upset. This can be confusing to both the survivor and her partner.

Working on how to handle triggers can take a little time, but it is worth learning how. When a trigger event occurs, the survivor should try to recognize what happened so that she can communicate to her partner what needs to be avoided in the future. The survivor can also remind herself that she is now safe in the present moment, and that the past can no longer hurt her. She can soothe herself or ask for her partner to soothe her.

Learning to manage triggers is important because it helps the survivor feel in control. It is a way of processing memories in a healthy way. It can also be an opportunity for the partner to give support, and that can build trust in a relationship.

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