http://www.thebuehlerinstitute.com/blog/2009/05/22/low-libido-when-a-mans-drive-goes-into-neutral/ Sexuality And Intimacy For Men, Women And Couples Thu, 22 Jul 2010 20:49:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 http://www.thebuehlerinstitute.com/blog/2009/05/22/low-libido-when-a-mans-drive-goes-into-neutral/comment-page-1/#comment-21033 Mariah Sun, 12 Jul 2009 21:08:37 +0000 http://www.thebuehlerinstitute.com/blog/2009/05/22/low-libido-when-a-mans-drive-goes-into-neutral/#comment-21033 I don't know if it's different for men than it is for women. But I think the biggest problem is not that one of the partners(say, the man) has lower libido than the other, but that the other partner is no longer attractive or wanted sexually, even if the guy has plenty of libido in general. It is not that the libido is gone, but that the libido for the particular person is gone. Not just a little gone, either. Really gone. When that happens, what can you do? How do you manufacture desire for a certain person when that desire is gone? You can even love the other person in a way, but that love does not necessarily mean you want them sexually. And how long should one make an effort with a qualified therapist like you to improve the problem before deciding that it is hopeless? Three months of weekly sessions? Six months? A year? Two years? Five years? I don’t know if it’s different for men than it is for women. But I think the biggest problem is not that one of the partners(say, the man) has lower libido than the other, but that the other partner is no longer attractive or wanted sexually, even if the guy has plenty of libido in general. It is not that the libido is gone, but that the libido for the particular person is gone. Not just a little gone, either. Really gone. When that happens, what can you do? How do you manufacture desire for a certain person when that desire is gone? You can even love the other person in a way, but that love does not necessarily mean you want them sexually. And how long should one make an effort with a qualified therapist like you to improve the problem before deciding that it is hopeless? Three months of weekly sessions? Six months? A year? Two years? Five years?

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